Personal lives - stepping over that line

[jude_53]

First of all my answer to Anna.. The thought briefly entered my mind to write to Mary privately, but I knew it would be for no reason. With the past history of ours there is no reasoning.. there is no rhyme to any of it. It would be as if you expected a reasonable answer and there is none - nor would there have been.

To write would have been to 'expect' the truth.. and how would someone tell the truth behind all of it..

I only know that I sought to keep this from being a real attack.. just tried to be factual and I won't go beyond that.

I will say this: I've always had a self-depricating sense of humor about myself.. always joked about photoshop being my best friend.. I've never said I was beautiful or even pretty. I do what I can with the camera equipment I have and can afford .. be it great or not..

I know that I love taking photos.. playing with images.. making my emotions and feelings apparent in them.. anything taken from that and made into something else is purely someone's imagination.

I am who I am.. period.

[camera0bug]

Stay true to yourself Jude.

[annayu]

Yes, I see your point Jude. Stay true to yourself as Dan says. I don't take myself too seriously either, makes life much more interesting.
(Still dunno what to do with the gold bareback dress I bought for Vegas).

[adalberto_tiburzi]

(Still dunno what to do with the gold bareback dress I bought for Vegas).

hmmmm...

[camera0bug]

Adal will be stopping by to take the preliminary photos
of you in it Anna.

Vegas soon.............!!!!!


Where angels and devils meet in their off seasons

[cfrederick]

Jude53,
I am sorry this has happened to you. I teach internet safety to young people. It is important to remember you have no control over what people do with the information they find on any public site. There is also no control of what information people can glean from the site about you. We teach students to make sure their log-in name doesn't give any hint as to their gender, age, and location. We as adults get complacent with being careful about revealing identity information on sites like pbase. I am guilty too and your story has given me a reality check. I also never list real names on my pictures or put up any children's pictures without password protecting them. I am teaching an Inservice tomorrow to several teachers about why it is important to teach internet safety to our students. I am going to tell them your story as my opener. Glad you shared the story--it seems to be an eye opener for a lot of the pbase users!

[cdnies]

Jude, I'm terribly sorry you had to endure this situation. I guess my naivete' prevented me from seeing the potential for abuse others may inflict, and this sad tale has been a strange realization to me. I hope this does not change your future on PBase.

[alexhoggarth]

I am so sorry for you Jude - I never ever read the forums and I happened to be here now to read this - let this be a lesson to all of us - I usually will eliminate negative energy when I first recognize it, by avoiding the creator of such energy and just move on to more positivity.

1. always cover your ass, and make sure that if you are posting images that can be used to damage you by a nasty vindicative person, in your job or family, that you got yourself covered - tell your boss, show your family and tell your friends if you take pics of them and post them - and if something happens they will know before hand.

2. don't make yourself so vulnerable by posting personal information about yourself - I am guilty as sin here as I am an "open book"

3. Vent your experiences, so that we can learn from them

4. THE POSITIVE: now your boss knows, supports you and is now able to see your work at its leasure - good for your job and for making you advance in this world - always great to make your boss aware of what you are capable - and this is not always obvious - this incident has provided your boss with the tools to appreciate your work ever further - it must also be a good feeling to feel that support and appreciation from your boss and gives an enhanced feeling of security of work considering he/she also backed you up and defended you.

5. and finally, you know you have support here - so continue making nice images and expressing yourself through your photography.

Now I will go look at your images heheh

Rachelita

[toddono]

I stumbled on this last night, I don't check the forum very often.

What can I say that hasn't been said? I'm upset and angry that someone has violated the bounds of PBase and that someone has attacked a friend. It's good to see the support of so many here, that so many "get it", that so many came to defend your right to be yourself.

You are one of the true artists here on pbase. Stay true to yourself. And know that so many support you!

Todd

[davidclunas]

Beyond words, the alternative would be not to post or comment and that would not be right. Rachelita's advice is good, and you are clearly one for continuing or you would not have posted this. Keep true to yourself and everything else will shine.

[1designguy]

I think I am still more PO'd than most This has to remain ahead of her butt posting

[leggings]

Jude53, I have seen some of your work and think you are a very good photographer. Your work is tremendously well done.

Having a person step over the line and delve into personal life is not something anyone wants. Art work should have a personal feel to it and reflect the artist’s spirit, mood, character, being and so on. Art should be a reflection into the psyche of an artist. People can reflect on art and comment but beyond that the artist should have exclusive possession and only allow in what the artist wants allowed in. We give enough of ourselves by making our views on the world visible for other people to see. Art is altruistic and one of the most giving professions anyone can take on, be it professional or just a leisure pursuit. It is not selfish to want part of our lives to be closed off from the public. I think of it like a view of life through a closed windowpane.

Good luck with everything.

Duncan

[yardbird]

Dear Jude,
I have often heard people tell me that a person's true merit is measured only at a time of hardship, by the number of people who stand by you.

Now, it is even more clear. Your photos have truly been inspirational.
I might not get to see them as often as I did when I was a student, or even post as often, but believe me whenever i get time off from work, yours is one of the first gallery I go to.

On the question that Jeanne raised... about fear... I agree! I mean we've all in a way opened ourselves to strangers, but who we believe are freinds, and everyday with each pic they get to know more about me, my life, my wife, my work etc. Now I am worried. Should I retract into a shell and take shots of only birds and bees?

Karthik

[bleuciel_usa]

I love your work, and I think that story is very sad and s little scary. I'm happy for you it was not as bad as it could have been... Keep on with your magical images!!

[darter02]

I just added her to the new Pbase "blacklist" feature. What a novel new funtion of the site!