Photography & Relationship

[jducasse]

My wife is getting seriously getting on my case lately concerning my photography work. "You are always out"; "You always on your computer"; "Why is it always all about you".

The truth is, any time I go out and make money, I split it with her. But that is not enough. I can not take her to certain gigs 'cause we have 2 small kids and whenever I take her to a job, she says I don't pay attention to her.

I happen to spend some time working on the pictures of a somewhat beautiful girl. My wife gets cranky because “I spend too much time looking at my PC screenâ€

[alexphotos]

I can understand your wife you should shoot here and some other stuff like stuff arround the house and nature stuff, i think she see your work as a way for you to look at other women.

Never did have that problem cuz i shoot anything 99% of my shots are just for the fun and the 1% left is work for other.

Take photos of your kids wife print some make some card, go on your computer when she goo to bead or when she not there.

That my 2 cents
ps i dont have a wife or kids.

Alexandre

[pathfindar]

[quote] a somewhat beautiful girl. My wife gets cranky because “I spend too much time looking at my PC screenâ€

[gpaai]

I started getting my wife involved in Photography. Now she wants us to become a team. I let her mess around with my 20D a bit, to the point that she says she wants it. I said only if I get a 5D. SHe said, let's start saving up. I'm a happy camper to say the least.

Gary

[annayu]

I started getting my wife involved in Photography. Now she wants us to become a team. I let her mess around with my 20D a bit, to the point that she says she wants it. I said only if I get a 5D. SHe said, let's start saving up. I'm a happy camper to say the least.

Gary

Now that is devious Gary
Soon you will get the livingroom too.... start moving the furniture away sneakily....

[prideofanglia]

I think Pathfindar's said it very well. I find keeping my PaD going a constant struggle because I work long hours during the week and at weekends my wife, who's been looking after three small kids all week without much help from me (which is a lot harder than any work I do, and much less appreciated than it should be by the world at large), expects me to be around and be part of the family, not off taking photos or glued to the PC. So we fight about it and of course she usually wins .

I often only manage to get two hours or less shooting time a week, which is less than I'd like in an ideal world, but the point is that the reasons she objects to me wandering off on my own for large chunks of the weekend are, to my mind, completely reasonable - she wants to spend time with me and me to spend time with our kids (as I do, of course!). Hobbies, particularly if you're passionate about them, can get in the way of the really important things in life if you let them - and we all tend to take the really important things (and people) for granted until they're not there.

Having said that, I can imagine if I was off shooting beautiful models things would get pretty frosty pretty quick......

[beverley_h]

hee hee!! soooo glad i'm a woman!!
i don't mind going off on my own taking piccies, i spend a lot of time and money on photography, hubby has his own hobby and he spends time and money too, so no guilt or recriminations on either side, 2 very happy people!!
lucky me!!

[slowpokebill]

Really there was a time when I heard lots of the same things. Wanda was a bit jealous of my hobby. I was always off taking photos of something or other and then spending hours at the computer. She felt left out.

So she decided that maybe I should shoot a few pics of her. OK so it got a little out of control and led to lots of pictures of her. Next thing she started taking a picture or three and she really started to enjoy photography. Now she is kind of pushing me to buy a new Canon 5D body ... she has eyes on my 20D.

Bill
http://www.pbase.com/slowpokebill

[jducasse]

I am glad that I had posted my frustrations. I think I picked up some very good tips here.

Although, I am not sure that I should trust my wife with my S3 Pro (I don’t have another DLSR). However, if that can resolve things, I am willing to give it a shot.

Thanks ya'll

[camera0bug]

My cat gets jealous of the time I'm out galavanting around with my female friends at concerts, art galleries and parties
but I find if I open a particularly fragrant can of tuna and leave it out for her, she seems to be quite satisfied.

Not sure that will work with your wife though.

[hgebeaux]

I can't document this, but it's my belief that most artists, serious artists, are rather isolated people. Most seem to either be loners or have problems with relationships. Being a true and dedicated artist, whether it's as a photographer or writer or ...., requires such dedication and focus that a relationship outside of that effort is very difficult. Seems that's just the way it is. Depends on how committed your are to either choice. Unfortunately, it seems man can only deal with one commitment at a time. Your choice.
Howard

[djwixx]

I found the easy answer - I use a laptop and am always in the living room when I'm messing around with my snaps - she was even happy when I said I needed to upgrade my laptop so my picture 'playing' would be easy/better - it's in the post!! My wife's happy because she gets to watch whatever rubbish on TV and I get to 'play', but I'm still around. Luckily my wife's family has a photographic background, so she knows more than I do but is interested. Doing the PAD just takes up more time, but I'm loving it and she's happy that I have something I'm enjoying doing. I think my basement office is sulking!!!

[treeoflife]

My cat gets jealous of the time I'm out galavanting around with my female friends at concerts, art galleries and parties
but I find if I open a particularly fragrant can of tuna and leave it out for her, she seems to be quite satisfied.

Not sure that will work with your wife though.

[samsite999]

Its a difficalt one. Me and my girlfrend, we are not rich, we live togever in a small flat. I picked up the hobbey about 6 months ago serisly but it was always somthing i wanted to do. There is good and bad here. The money i spend is very closly monoterd because there are more important things for that to go on, like car and rent lol, When i go out on a drive in the country side or a walk around town to take some pictures she is happey to come along and even point out a few things that she wants pictures of. Im happey to take them and print them so she can hang them up some ware. She is happey as she has a nice picture, im happey because she likes it. This side of the hobbey is ok. We spend time togever go out and have a little fun.
Were the problem starts. We all like to share work, talk about what we have done and share are photos. Its the forum that realy gets you...or me. Im active in 2 forums and spend a fair it of time in photoshop or updating my gallery. wile she understands this is part of it, its time spent were she has no active role. My computer stup is in the front room as she is (she watches the TV) but i may as well be on a differnt plannet. Just because im in the room doesnt mean she is getting the deserved attention.... Reading and tryping all of this has made me think that i should perhaps back off a little and when im not out shooting the forum time can weight..(till work) I do think we all need to step back from time to time and re - assess whats importan

[poppypower]

Well I thought you might like the other halfs opinion on this subject………….

I am samsite’s GF, and some of what he says is correct we do have days out looking for photos and he does take pictures of sheep for me on a regular basis (I like animals) lol. I do enjoy our days out looking for things to take pictures of, its nice to be involved and a nice day out for me. As for when we get home yeah he does spend a lot of time on the computer editing and on forums this doesn’t bother me too much tbh he asks my opinion on photos and wether he values them or not it is nice to be asked. On the forums side of things I have my own I look at and as you can see I do read his forums.

My suggestion is once a week give your wife your complete attention and at weekends go for days out with the family try and get your wife and kids involved more ask them what photos they would like. Ask your wifes opinion try to get them involved with what you do……